First, you have to get enough okra to completely cover a large frying pan. If working with FRESH okra, cut it into 1/2-inch to 3/4-inch pieces. Frozen works just fine as well.
Next, mix about a 1/2 cup corn meal, and a 1/2 cup of flour in a bowl. Add to the mix about 1/2 teaspoon of onion powder.
Place the frying pan on the heat, adding in enough cooking oil to cover the bottom all over. THIS IS NOT DEEP FRYING, so do not put any more oil than that. Bring up to temperature for frying.
Place the okra pieces in the bowl of meal/flour mix, and stir around to ensure all pieces are coated. Once that is done, take out the okra and place it into the hot oil. Go ahead and continue adding okra until the entire bottom is covered. Let cook slowly, turning the pieces over so all sides get fried. Once most are golden brown (some may even seemed blackened and "overdone", but that's ok) then they should be done and ready to serve. A large frying pan serves about six.
Here was our finished okra tonight: